Want to share something that I shared on my friend's social media post on him being blocked by someone who he wants to connect. Felt that maybe I can share it here and if you feel that it is valuable, please help to "like" & Share. Thanks!
Firstly-If you want to connect with someone, start with the human connection like "Hi XXX, I saw that we have common interests and you are into XXX (common topics) and passionate about XXX. I would like to connect with you more. Hope to hear from you. Thank you."
There are no human connection when you use messages like that “I believe in making meaningful connections, online and offline.” or you started introducing your company or your role which seems too commercial and scripted. Maybe it might sound like a marketing message. Be REAL and make new friends instead of trying to have a transaction or collaboration on your first attempt.
Secondly-If the other party replied you, read what they wrote instead of you wanting to say what you want to say. In any conversation, you need to listen(read in this instant) first before you reply. From their replies you will know what type of personality they are and how you reply is crucial. If you realised that they are more of a straight forward person, stop beating around the bush and get straight to the point if not they will lose interest in you and even block you immediately
Thirdly-Do not judge someone until you really know them. Put yourself in their shoes first. How would they want to be approached than how I want to approach them? Build the trust through relationship building and that require patience. If you do not have patience then don't start any conversation.
Recently I have told someone who message me privately in LinkedIn that I am put off by their first message. They went straight introducing themselves as XXX from XXX company and what products/services that they provide blah blah blah.... and contact them if I am interested.
In fact, I was interested in finding out more BUT if she had not send me a long message of introducing herself and what she provide before I ask for it, I would be interested. If she start off with "Hi Kenneth, I see that you own a marketing agency and maybe there's anything that I can help you. Would like to connect with you to explore more if you are keen."
At this point, I might show interest and check out her profile to understand more. If she did a good job of optimising her LinkedIn profile I would most likely to ask more and pursue this conversation.
In fact in LinkedIn, I would be able to see where you are working and what company you are working for. It is all on your profile and if you have optimised your profile nicely. There would not be any problem understanding what you do in the beginning.
There are so many people that are still using this method of connecting online which I do not know if this works for others, but for me personally I don't like this method. Many you can share with me your experience and do you like such approach?
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