I love this quote by, Steve Maraboli;
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get more stronger and more resilient.”
The parts of us tend to hope our future is not determined by the stars, but by our own self and commitment. However, against my wish, ironically though, I am so used to this assessment thrown at me time and again to ensure my mind is updated with the latest version of resilience.
The question, why me God?!! Was a natural one, as I seriously had started thinking of this assessment to be a routine and it all seemed normal.
However, as I progressed and moved into the professional world the word; resilience became a lot more meaningful. So, it literally means to have the ability to cope with setbacks. Generally, the people who are blessed with the ability to remain composed in the face of a disaster are said to have resilience.
Like a normal human being, I too was reactive to disasters and things falling apart or fizzling out. I did fall into despair and began hiding from people/ places/ issues. Yet a part of me kept telling me that I was not being helpful to myself.
The lessons I learnt along the way; Resilience can be considered as a way to bounce back; however, it can be deeper looked at as a way to rediscover oneself and pave a new path,
It can open new doors to building new relationships/ businesses/ partnerships etc. only if we allow ourselves.
One learns to call a spade a spade! There’s a plan to be prepared for the worse and the rigid threads are set loose.
We respect our own individuality, especially when one comes out of a toxic environment or realises an environment or relationship is unhealthy, abusive or toxic.
One tends to recognise resilience as a vibrant quality. One can be resilient in one way in a given situation yet can be otherwise in another…and that’s all right!
Being resilient doesn’t mean you have a magic cloak to save you from evil or accidents; you are simply mentally a lot more aware of your strengths and weaknesses. One knows how to cope and recover well.
Almost everyone suffers some adverse effects, such as emotional strain, throughout the journey of hard times but resilient individuals manage to recover well.
Well, it’s all right to fail and falter exactly the way it’s normal to win. We need to realise being a consistent self-critic is a self- sabotage and is going create a negative thought cycle gradually. Let us learn to fall and make the best from that fall.
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