We have no control over when and where we are born. We have no control over how our parents raise us. Our upbringing and education depend on the resources available with our parents. At some point in our lives, after facing a lot of failures and obstacles, we come to realise what is lacking.
We see people smarter and brighter than us. We realise they got more exposure when they were younger. We realise our education was not up to the mark. Just studying and getting decent marks was not enough to have a successful life.
Sooner or later, one concludes that real education doesn't take place in the classroom. It's something much more than writing exams and reading textbooks. It happens when we are exposed to different environments, given the freedom to explore different pursuits and allowed to make mistakes. We learn when we are not forced to study subjects that don’t excite us. We learn by doing things rather than learning them by heart.
Going to school for 6-7 hours and then studying the same things in a coaching class doesn’t really help a child live fully. They are tired, bored and start finding ways to escape the daily routine. They find other unhealthier ways to enjoy themselves. Learning becomes synonymous to studying for exams, completing their notebooks and getting good grades. There is no time to focus on sports, learn art, and meet different, interesting people.
A child is always under pressure to impress the adults in their life. Parents and teachers are happy only when the child behaves as per their wishes. Since parents are busy earning for their children, there is no one who can have a healthy communication with the child. There is a void in the child’s life.
This is why they start looking outside and may make wrong choices when it comes to trusting people. Someone with wrong intentions may win their trust and manipulate them. Then they are hurt deeply and try to recover all their life. The wounds never really heal because they never get the opportunity to understand what went wrong.
We cannot go on blaming others for our shortcomings, that's true. But, what can we do to change? After growing up, one way to reconstruct our personalities is to enter therapy. A mental health professional is someone with whom you can share everything that you think is wrong with you.
They don’t judge you or blame you or make you feel something is wrong with you. They provide you a safe space to explore your inner life. You can express your emotions without feeling any kind of guilt or the fear of being judged. Counselling and therapy can do wonders for you if you want to grow in life.
Approaching a mental health professional can turn out to be the best decision of your life. Take some time out to think about your life journey. Ask yourself the following questions:
Are you happy with the person you’ve become?
Do you think you’re living the life you’ve always wanted to live?
Do you feel satisfied with the way you’re living your life?
Are you able to build healthy relationships?
There are a lot of ways you can do this. It all starts with that one call or text to approach a mental health professional.
Give yourself another chance. Build a new You.
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