What I realized is the vast difference in what is perceived as important. It is probably dependent on one’s cultural upbringing. I noticed this feeling particularly during conversations about legacy.
I understand that for a lot of people in some cultures, this concept is linked to an idea of importance or significance and has to do with the mark they leave on their field. How do we mark lives? I consider myself a wanderer, and I strive to abstain from developing attachments to any particular cultural beliefs.
I can feel how strong these beliefs are in the stories people tell and the questions they ask – e.g., What will your legacy be? I don’t have any particular ambition to leave any kind of legacy, and I do not want to be judged based on my choice not to care about having a legacy.
I also prefer to remain in service of the client when I’m conversing, connecting and co-creating. I maintain that the intention of leaving a legacy shifts the attention from the “we,” which is foundational to the coaching field, to the vanity of “me”; stepping into eternity one question at a time. Leaving a legacy may happen unintentionally as a product of great practice, which, for me, is the focused, unattached and conscious intention to turn my attention away from the expectation to achieve or the need to leave a legacy.
As a coach supervisor, I make myself available to the experience of the field. I am delighted to be relieved of the burden of knowing and feel immensely joyful in experiencing the potential of all possibilities. Most importantly, since I am not alone, au contraire, I work in partnership with the other, the friendly, the explorer, the wanderer, the skeptic, the supervisee.
I hold an interest in walking together in our temenos, where time, and place are not important as much as gender, religion and age. It is my passion and fascination to explore with awe, serenity, respect, a welcoming appreciation … a child’s lust for everything that is important to the other, everything that is a life-giving source, everything that is a rebellion of mind, everything that lives in the darkened outskirts of our awareness.
My intention enables my attention to transcend expectation. My intention is a flower that gives scent and color to my attention.
It enables my attention to have endurance and to be tireless when connecting with the other to create a safe space for exploration, amazement and awe. I am not intentional in purposefully exploring. I am intentional in maintaining a high level throughout the experience. I am serene. I am innocent. I am unintentional. I am the available exploration. I am the place and the way of service.
I practice the supervisor’s willingness to outlive my capacity and transcend my day in order to connect the other with what is not yet here. My bridge, inside the temenos, connects spaces beyond what can be seen as legacy.
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